It is a big responsibility to be a man. One that requires some metaphorically big shoulders.
Yet the first responsibility should always be to ourselves, and we tend to give that up when we get into relationships, or a job, and we put others before us…thinking that’s the “manly” thing to do. But where does that leave us?
Feeling empty, exhausted, on an endless search for a feeling of contentment....definitely not free, happy, and empowered. The promises we make to ourselves end up being last in line.
It is, honestly, easier to keep our word to our partners, or our bosses, because we would feel guilt and shame if we didn’t do any of the things we believe are expected of us. That is often the highest motivating factor in a man’s life once he takes on a career and/or a partner: Do not let others down.
But along the way we subconsciously erode our word to ourselves, because even though we tell ourselves awful things when we don’t follow through for ourselves, we justify our reasons…deftly avoiding the feelings of guilt and shame.
Somewhere along the line, though, that erosion of our word begins to scratch away at our confidence, at our self-love, at our belief in what we’re truly capable of. In many cases, that leads to bitterness, resentment, or just plain anger towards ourselves…and, in turn, outwardly affects those around us.
It is imperative, for our own well-being, that we cultivate the relationship to our word and, subsequently, to ourselves. One of the most impactful moments in my work with men recently has been the quote, “I do this work for ME.”
Learning to keep our word to ourselves is one of the most significantly, positively effective things we can do for our lives and for the lives of our loved ones.
“The Word of Man” is THE online space for men to rekindle their self-worth, their masculinity, and their self-confidence…and they do it for themselves, first.
This on-going community of action-oriented men is a space for consistent motivation, endless inspiration, and a space where every man can relate to where another is, or has been, so no man has to feel alone in their journey.
The times of feeling like you’ve got to do this by yourself are over. There is nothing more powerful than a group of men who wish for you nothing but your own success. And if you have never experienced that before you are in for an extraordinary awakening.
I would love for you to join us.